Oh, this is an awesome and fun question. (But also, eek, I have to try to get a little deeper into Blaine's head, which is still sort of blackbox-y to me, but it's good to do, so I'll do my best.)
My Blaine head-canon for sex & threesomes:
The threesome fantasy for Blaine predates his knowing Kurt. Early on, it was definitely mostly about his being the center of attention, or more importantly the center of affection. I suspect Blaine often has a hard time telling these things apart. At home, Blaine doesn't get a lot of either, and he often doesn't feel especially wanted (his physical presence) or approved of, so those are the things that drive the fantasy. It's like having a bigger audience. I think there's probably also more basic sexual elements like, 'wouldn't it be awesome to have my dick sucked/suck a dick while I'm being fucked'.
He does like to feel like he's on display, that's the attention. The vulnerability comes with wanting the approval, I think, the affection. (Tangentially FWIW, I don't think Blaine is interested in any sort of humiliation: he wants to be good and pretty and essential.) It's what his desire to be objectified (used) or molded (pushed) is about. He wants to be the valuable, necessary possession, scrutinized for his lover's pleasure: beloved, devoted, adaptable. When he gets it, he feels powerful and real (sometimes I think dreamy dreamboat Teenage Dream Blaine even doubts he's real; in a hypothetical sequel set around DWS Blaine is feeling like he's in danger of disappearing if Kurt isn't there to look at him).
And now he has Kurt, who makes him feel so loved and real and grounded and essential; I think there's part of Blaine that feels like loving Kurt validates his existence. Which is not particularly healthy, and I don't think Blaine necessarily articulates it like that within his own mind, but I think it's there. I suppose on a meta level, as viewers we know Blaine (initially) does exist for Kurt, so, for me, it means having Blaine process that within the narrative somehow. (Also, bring it on, S4!)
As he's been with Kurt and their sexual relationship has developed, he would have started out embellishing his original fantasy of a threesome with him at the center of it, much of it increasingly for Kurt's enjoyment/gaze/approval. What you said about Kurt's protection would embolden him, he would feel safe and even proud. But I think it might, at this point (post Part VI) in their relationship be starting to feel too private to him, unless he were 110% sure Kurt wanted it this way for Kurt's own reasons and desires. Partly, because I think he wants to feel very much that he is utterly Kurt's, and the kind of vulnerability he would feel is changing. It's gone from being solely his own exposure to exposing Kurt's devotion to him. So, yeah, he definitely wouldn't want the bondage elements, and I think stuff like the dirty talk might make him uncomfortable in the presence of a hypothetical third person, at least partly because it might be misunderstood.
So it's not the same fantasy it was. It's morphing into being more about Kurt. He's got to see Kurt go from a horrified, "I've tried watching those movies..." to a heartfelt, "Yeah, fuck me," because of Blaine, and I think that's been quite a rush for Blaine. He's still sort of stunned at how Kurt, in a comfortable & sexually receptive mode, responds. It's not what he expected, but he's profoundly gratified by it, and really keen to keep exploring everything Kurt likes and how he likes it, so I think, in his changing threesome fantasy, something Blaine would really enjoy would be to bring someone in who does (perhaps primarily) desire Kurt (my Mike head-canon involves his having harbored a crush on Kurt, so...). That alone would feel like a gift to Blaine (because of what you noted about Kurt's continuing surprise at being an object of desire). Right now the element of the fantasy that's turning Blaine on the most is the idea of his holding and soothing Kurt while the other person takes care of Kurt, maybe even fucks Kurt (though Blaine is uncertain if Kurt would want it that way, so they need to talk about it, if Blaine is brave enough to bring it up). I really like your idea of Blaine orchestrating things. I hadn't thought about that, but it's very compelling! I think he could definitely really get into providing verbal guidance and prompting and deeply enjoy being responsible for Kurt's pleasure while not being the direct cause of it, allowing him to observe it and control it while not being caught up in his own.
I also really love everything you mention about exhibitionism and they two being able to make a third person feel amazing. I think they would both really enjoy that, too, (and it may be where they choose to start), which makes me think any potential threesome has to not be a one time thing because they can have so much fun with it, with the right person Mike.
But now, of course, I have to consider what Mike would want, and also how they would all negotiate it with Tina, depending on the status of Tina & Mike's relationship. And I'm still unsure of the initial catalyst. Possibly Blaine somehow (How? Possibly in the context of his friendship with Mike, Mike tells him, sort of as a "haha, guess what?" kind of thing?) learns of Mike's having had a crush on Kurt and Blaine starts thinking about it, a lot. And then he can't stop thinking about it so he has to say something to Kurt, and...
tl;dr Blaine thinks Mike fucking Kurt would be insanely hot.
This was so much fun to contemplate! Thank you for the brain poke. I've fallen into a weird funk after posting that last chapter; this helped a lot. <3
I've fallen into a weird funk after posting that last chapter
Ah, post-WIP funk. It's a thing. Just remember you finished something huge and gorgeous and are therefore an awesome human.
they two being able to make a third person feel amazing. I think they would both really enjoy that... But now, of course, I have to consider what Mike would want, and also how they would all negotiate it with Tina, depending on the status of Tina & Mike's relationship.
That's my personal favourite angle -- K and B working together to be good to someone else. Hits my teamwork kink.
The demise of Mike/Tina presents an obvious woe/comfort scenario, if we're cataloging catalysts. I'm actually really into the idea of a foursome, though. Why leave poor Tina out?! She's kinky and brave and feminist, and would probably be highly useful as an orchestrator. I like it for them because it strengthens their safety net a bit: equal (greater!) opportunities for exploration and discovery, yet everyone has someone present who knows them well and loves them best; everyone has someone to go home with. And I could see that happening over the summer between S3 and S4, whereas I'd be happier about a straight-up threesome after Kurt and Blaine have worked through all their mumbletyspoilers and everybody's grown up a bit. Comfortable-old-friends dynamic, mmm.
Love your Blaine meta. out_there just wrote a great story that hits that nail right on the head; have you seen it? Types, re: Breaking Them
I had not read this one yet, but now I have! Thank you, that was a stellar treatment of Blaine.
I'm actually really into the idea of a foursome, though.
Ah, this makes for a very different dynamic in my head. I like it. I like it a lot, but I'll have to ponder it for a while to get a feel for what I'd do with it. S4 Tina is kinda throwing me off a little at this stage too, so it's something that might require me getting a better feel for where she is now to better get where she was over the summer maybe. Because, yeah, I think the summer would be a time for initial explorations -- perhaps along with the photo taking. Maybe Tina is even more of an instigator for them? Perhaps she has the camera and is directing the three boys, and that's when things start getting a bit more risqué, because she knows things, and Blaine also knows things. Hmm.
It does put more emotional weight on Kurt and Blaine getting with Mike post his break-up with Tina (and after they've sorted their mumbletyspoilers†) if the four of them play over the summer, and I always like more emotional weight to my porn. Oh, and it makes for a more complex relationship between Blaine and Tina in the choir room this season, too. Hmm! /rambling
Just remember you finished something huge and gorgeous and are therefore an awesome human.
Thank you. This is really helpful to hear. I should stick it to my mirror. Seriously. I expected some brain weirdness after the fact, but I've ended up having to fight off an episode of depression with the attendant awesome feelings of dismal failure, both existential and artistic. I'm mostly coming right now, but bleah. Everything about my mental health (which is not generally great), is complicated by traumatic grief presently, so it's like I'm constantly being ambushed by my own psyche. I have a stupid brain.
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My Blaine head-canon for sex & threesomes:
The threesome fantasy for Blaine predates his knowing Kurt. Early on, it was definitely mostly about his being the center of attention, or more importantly the center of affection. I suspect Blaine often has a hard time telling these things apart. At home, Blaine doesn't get a lot of either, and he often doesn't feel especially wanted (his physical presence) or approved of, so those are the things that drive the fantasy. It's like having a bigger audience. I think there's probably also more basic sexual elements like, 'wouldn't it be awesome to have my dick sucked/suck a dick while I'm being fucked'.
He does like to feel like he's on display, that's the attention. The vulnerability comes with wanting the approval, I think, the affection. (Tangentially FWIW, I don't think Blaine is interested in any sort of humiliation: he wants to be good and pretty and essential.) It's what his desire to be objectified (used) or molded (pushed) is about. He wants to be the valuable, necessary possession, scrutinized for his lover's pleasure: beloved, devoted, adaptable. When he gets it, he feels powerful and real (sometimes I think dreamy dreamboat Teenage Dream Blaine even doubts he's real; in a hypothetical sequel set around DWS Blaine is feeling like he's in danger of disappearing if Kurt isn't there to look at him).
And now he has Kurt, who makes him feel so loved and real and grounded and essential; I think there's part of Blaine that feels like loving Kurt validates his existence. Which is not particularly healthy, and I don't think Blaine necessarily articulates it like that within his own mind, but I think it's there. I suppose on a meta level, as viewers we know Blaine (initially) does exist for Kurt, so, for me, it means having Blaine process that within the narrative somehow. (Also, bring it on, S4!)
As he's been with Kurt and their sexual relationship has developed, he would have started out embellishing his original fantasy of a threesome with him at the center of it, much of it increasingly for Kurt's enjoyment/gaze/approval. What you said about Kurt's protection would embolden him, he would feel safe and even proud. But I think it might, at this point (post Part VI) in their relationship be starting to feel too private to him, unless he were 110% sure Kurt wanted it this way for Kurt's own reasons and desires. Partly, because I think he wants to feel very much that he is utterly Kurt's, and the kind of vulnerability he would feel is changing. It's gone from being solely his own exposure to exposing Kurt's devotion to him. So, yeah, he definitely wouldn't want the bondage elements, and I think stuff like the dirty talk might make him uncomfortable in the presence of a hypothetical third person, at least partly because it might be misunderstood.
So it's not the same fantasy it was. It's morphing into being more about Kurt. He's got to see Kurt go from a horrified, "I've tried watching those movies..." to a heartfelt, "Yeah, fuck me," because of Blaine, and I think that's been quite a rush for Blaine. He's still sort of stunned at how Kurt, in a comfortable & sexually receptive mode, responds. It's not what he expected, but he's profoundly gratified by it, and really keen to keep exploring everything Kurt likes and how he likes it, so I think, in his changing threesome fantasy, something Blaine would really enjoy would be to bring someone in who does (perhaps primarily) desire Kurt (my Mike head-canon involves his having harbored a crush on Kurt, so...). That alone would feel like a gift to Blaine (because of what you noted about Kurt's continuing surprise at being an object of desire). Right now the element of the fantasy that's turning Blaine on the most is the idea of his holding and soothing Kurt while the other person takes care of Kurt, maybe even fucks Kurt (though Blaine is uncertain if Kurt would want it that way, so they need to talk about it, if Blaine is brave enough to bring it up). I really like your idea of Blaine orchestrating things. I hadn't thought about that, but it's very compelling! I think he could definitely really get into providing verbal guidance and prompting and deeply enjoy being responsible for Kurt's pleasure while not being the direct cause of it, allowing him to observe it and control it while not being caught up in his own.
I also really love everything you mention about exhibitionism and they two being able to make a third person feel amazing. I think they would both really enjoy that, too, (and it may be where they choose to start), which makes me think any potential threesome has to not be a one time thing because they can have so much fun with it, with
the right personMike.But now, of course, I have to consider what Mike would want, and also how they would all negotiate it with Tina, depending on the status of Tina & Mike's relationship. And I'm still unsure of the initial catalyst. Possibly Blaine somehow (How? Possibly in the context of his friendship with Mike, Mike tells him, sort of as a "haha, guess what?" kind of thing?) learns of Mike's having had a crush on Kurt and Blaine starts thinking about it, a lot. And then he can't stop thinking about it so he has to say something to Kurt, and...
tl;dr Blaine thinks Mike fucking Kurt would be insanely hot.
This was so much fun to contemplate! Thank you for the brain poke. I've fallen into a weird funk after posting that last chapter; this helped a lot. <3
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Ah, post-WIP funk. It's a thing. Just remember you finished something huge and gorgeous and are therefore an awesome human.
they two being able to make a third person feel amazing. I think they would both really enjoy that... But now, of course, I have to consider what Mike would want, and also how they would all negotiate it with Tina, depending on the status of Tina & Mike's relationship.
That's my personal favourite angle -- K and B working together to be good to someone else. Hits my teamwork kink.
The demise of Mike/Tina presents an obvious woe/comfort scenario, if we're cataloging catalysts. I'm actually really into the idea of a foursome, though. Why leave poor Tina out?! She's kinky and brave and feminist, and would probably be highly useful as an orchestrator. I like it for them because it strengthens their safety net a bit: equal (greater!) opportunities for exploration and discovery, yet everyone has someone present who knows them well and loves them best; everyone has someone to go home with. And I could see that happening over the summer between S3 and S4, whereas I'd be happier about a straight-up threesome after Kurt and Blaine have worked through all their mumbletyspoilers and everybody's grown up a bit. Comfortable-old-friends dynamic, mmm.
Love your Blaine meta.
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I had not read this one yet, but now I have! Thank you, that was a stellar treatment of Blaine.
I'm actually really into the idea of a foursome, though.
Ah, this makes for a very different dynamic in my head. I like it. I like it a lot, but I'll have to ponder it for a while to get a feel for what I'd do with it. S4 Tina is kinda throwing me off a little at this stage too, so it's something that might require me getting a better feel for where she is now to better get where she was over the summer maybe. Because, yeah, I think the summer would be a time for initial explorations -- perhaps along with the photo taking. Maybe Tina is even more of an instigator for them? Perhaps she has the camera and is directing the three boys, and that's when things start getting a bit more risqué, because she knows things, and Blaine also knows things. Hmm.
It does put more emotional weight on Kurt and Blaine getting with Mike post his break-up with Tina (and after they've sorted their mumbletyspoilers†) if the four of them play over the summer, and I always like more emotional weight to my porn. Oh, and it makes for a more complex relationship between Blaine and Tina in the choir room this season, too. Hmm! /rambling
Just remember you finished something huge and gorgeous and are therefore an awesome human.
Thank you. This is really helpful to hear. I should stick it to my mirror. Seriously. I expected some brain weirdness after the fact, but I've ended up having to fight off an episode of depression with the attendant awesome feelings of dismal failure, both existential and artistic. I'm mostly coming right now, but bleah. Everything about my mental health (which is not generally great), is complicated by traumatic grief presently, so it's like I'm constantly being ambushed by my own psyche. I have a stupid brain.
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† I love this coinage.